Advice please
landlord tenant attorney Oklahoma Aug 20, 2026
Location: Oklahoma. Long story short, thia has been a long 2 years trying to escape the control of my 18 year marriage. The system is beyond broken and I have learned the hard way that this is never going to end fairly. In a nutshell, he has a family member who is his lawyer with a personal foot in this. He is not liked and have been told that he is difficult to deal with and doesn't do fair. This has caused my first lawyer to ghost me and the other party so 5k lost there. Lawyer 2 gave in and was pressuring me into agreeing to things that I shouldn't and when I let him go, I requested the correspondence with the other party and he only gave bits and pieces to me. It appeared after seeing what I had that he was working against me. That was at least 20k. The 3rd lawyer tried his hardest but the trial went awful due to us not being allowed anything to use as proof including my pay stubs for income. He has now ghosted as well and that is 6k that he will automatically get to take. I can't bring myself to report them and ruin reputations over one case and an impossible lawyer to work with. I have 3 weeks until my next hearing over the divorce decree and custody agreement where they are requesting the judge to sign the decree they drafted that is incorrect per what the GAL stated which would stop my youngest from being exposed to and watched in a household where methamphetamine is used by his father. The GAL stated this on trial day one that they are not to watch our son or be in the home, the judge ruled her word for everything yet she signed the agreement without that in it and I have tried to reach out to her with no luck. I don't know how to navigate this. I dont care about the losses financially. I am beyond already struggling and I am absolutely alone and have been without the final check or temporary support since March. It is about to cause the kids and I to lose our home, phones are shut off, electricity is about to be shut off and I have no insurance. Everywhere I turn for help or advice says that they can't or don't help. I only have day 2 of the transcript which only stated the ruling of the finances, not the custody agreement. I have also tried to reason with my ex and compromise but he refuses and says he "doesn't want to be held accountable for his actions in the future". I know what to put into the agreement to fix the issues but I am unsure where to put it in the drafted documents or how to even turn this in for the judge to review so it isnt just the other parties draft. Also scared thay the lawyer currently ghosting me won't show up and it will just be me there. This is causing me so much stress and anxiety that it has been crippling to my daily function and abilities. I care about what is best for my kids and this blows my mind that a proven meth user who has yet to have a clean test can be ignored on top of everything else that had happened and come out including a girl coming forth to the GAL about him grooming and having sex with her, suicide attempts, child endangerment, more drug use, anger issues and having to file a emergency VPO. The court is failing us. I am feeling so alone and abandoned. Is there anyone who can help walk me through what I can do if anything?
