My mother is trying to put me on a conservatorship.
New Jersey Jul 26, 2026
Location: New Jersey Like the title says, my mother has been talking about trying to put me under a conservatorship. I'm almost 18 and getting ready for college. My mother and I have had a difficult relationship for as long as I can remember. She's made it very clear throughout my life that she doesn't like me, and I've mostly come to accept that. It's largely due to her own insecurities and unhappiness with her life given she had me young and wasnt able to attend college despite getting into 3 ivy league schools. I've always been really smart, constant straight a's, certificates, award after award, state recognition, yada yada. She's always hated this and ever since i was in elementary school constantly reminded me of that fact that she was doing what i was doing and so much more when she was my age. Whatever. Now I'm entering my junior year of high school, and because of my academic record, colleges have started reaching out to me, i've got a direct line with a few higher ups at Harvard due to my school's Principal and administration taking an interest in me and my pre-psat scores and they themselves being alumni/taught there in the past. Ever since these opportunities came up, she's become increasingly hostile given Harvard was one of the colleges she was accepted into yet could not attend. Despite our rocky relationship, there are times where she remembers that she is infact my mother and i'm not a highschool rival of hers and we are able to have civil conversations. During one of those conversations, I mentioned that I'd like to get a job and eventually live off campus during college because I'd like to adopt a dog. My mother hates animals, so I was never allowed to have one growing up. It's safe to say that set her off. Since then, she's been constantly sending me articles and Facebook posts about parents obtaining conservatorships over their adult children. taunting me with the fact that she could use that I attended therapy for severe anxiety as a child as evidence that I'm incapable of managing my own affairs in the real world, and 'venting' to her friends about how 'unstable' and 'aggressive' i am when defending myself against her. I have never been declared incompetent, I've never been under a guardianship, and I've never been diagnosed with any condition that would prevent me from managing my own affairs. I do still have anxiety, but it's primarily social anxiety, it makes it difficult for me to initiate conversations or speak up first, not to handle day-to-day responsibilities, make decisions, or live independently. My question is: Is there anything I can do to prevent or challenge a conservatorship if she actually tries to pursue one?
