Friends fiancée/ now boss has turned salty towards me
Montana Jul 24, 2026
Wondering about retaliation/ being fired (I do need money) if things go sideways So my buddies fiancé created a business (dirty soda trailer) and I am the first employee she hired, was there working all day on the grand opening (less than two months ago) with her. I wanted to invest initially but that didn’t happen, so I wanted to help them get it started. [I did loan them a little over a thousand dollars so they could install a truck hitch to be able to move the trailer, it has been repaid] (I am just an employee getting paid the same as the others, no title or better pay than anyone else) and besides one teenage boy that only works once a week, and also works with me, I am the only male employee, and am older than the owner. I’ve basically been working the afternoon/ evenings while she normally runs the morning shift. She has hired multiple teenage girls 14-19 for coverage/ assist her or myself. I even reduced my hours at my other job (morning shift) to help be available in the afternoon. Throughout my time with her business she has had an open ear as I have tried to suggest more efficient methods of utilizing space or ways to save time while making orders, sometimes implemented, sometimes ignored. Things started great, everyone is friendly and business is going well, yes there is a generalized employee handbook discussing professionalism, and dress code, and other general work rules etc. But it has not really been followed at all, (conversation topics/ drinking product while working) —there is an almost too comfortable with each other culture created by her— Well today she drops a form on me (final and only warning) and tells me that things have been brought to her attention regarding my behavior, [I was asked specific questions and I responded openly and honestly] but it was thrown back at me as unsolicited advice about my dietary practices (I fast regularly){found out one girl has an eating disorder and I immediately stopped discussing fasting around her} Or my personal beliefs (why I fast or don’t eat certain things) Or romantic relationships of the past (originally I thought, in a light teasing sort of way my sexuality was questioned) also she has now stated that my suggestions on efficiency are disrespectful and challenging her as the owner and the way she wants things done. Basically I’m blindsided that someone has been uncomfortable at times, while I being the only male am constantly uncomfortable with conversations and actions that the owner has allowed to happen again and again/instigated herself within her own work environment, but because it’s female to female it’s okay? And I’m just stuck having to listen/tolerate it ——- I want to talk to her about holding herself accountable for the culture she has created, and how it feels as though I’m being discriminated against because of my gender. Some of the many examples that I have documented that I want to discuss with her ——- discussing you and your finances sex life and sexual acts in the workplace with/ while in the presence of minors. Bodily discharge of flatulence from both orifices while in work place and in presence of minors with enthusiasm and directing flatulence towards minor. Discussing of your menstrual cycle and associated symptoms in the work place with/while in presence of a minor. Without warning or asking me to excuse myself, stripping your shirt off to change exposing yourself to me while in a work environment. (Her fiancé doesn’t even know about that) Standing by idly while I am harassed and accused of a sexual orientation that is not how I identify. Discussing that she would not hire someone specifically because of the person being of larger body size (it is a small close quarters trailer) yet owner is the largest person that works in trailer and you can’t get by her as it is. Asking for work to be performed while not being paid for time. Asking for and using employees belongings to use for business purposes. ———————— So yeah there’s more specifics I have documented, but basically I’m worried that when I call her out (privately not in front of the others) She’s gonna blow up and fire me in retaliation. I also have the insider knowledge of specific things, and with a few phone calls It would make it very difficult for her to continue to run the business if she did terminate me. MOST IMPORTANTLY IM TRYING TO COVER MY OWN BUTT HERE… before I proceed with talking to her any info of how things could shake out, and what to do if/when those possibilities happen. I already imagine a thousand scenarios so lay it on me. Thank you. Location: Montana Edit: Imagination here: On one end of outcome spectrum She needs to retract her “one and final warning” On the other end of spectrum I end up owning the trailer and business. Middle ground I get a nice chunk of change. (The friendship has drifted even prior to the business startup for context) so if it ends, it ends
