Desperate/devestated mother urgently seeking advice
criminal defense attorney Oklahoma Aug 8, 2026
Location: Oklahoma Im going to explain this without revealing details but it’s very disturbing and involves minors and s*xual cohersion and explicit content exposure. If a trigger warning is necessary here it is. My husband and I just discovered 3 days ago that my sister in law has been consistently and explicitly teaching s*xual acts (like oral), showing her personal explicit videos and photos with men, photos of s*x toys, instructions of how to use them, and encouragement “because it’s healthy and feels good,” to minors in her care. My daughter has never been allowed alone with her and that’s been made clear as day to everyone involved, based on my own intuition but no substantial evidence at the time. My FIL allowed her to be without adult supervision at her home. This led to children being encouraged to try these activities even though they did not truly understand the concept. My SIL was made aware of these child on child s*xual acts by one of the children involved and threatened the children not to tell anyone and specifically me and my husband. My daughter has been extremely protected at all costs including no access to internet browser or unmonitored activity on any device. No sleepover unless it’s at our house and they sleep in the living room etc etc. I am very hyper vigilant about these things, because my innocence was also taken young by affected children. My husband and I just recently within the last two days found out that my sister-in-law and father-in-law were both aware of these activities that occurred between the children and these are young children under 12 years of age. And both adults told them not to tell us and not to tell anyone else.. not only was I already confused by why my SIL who is a 3 X convicted felony child abuser has two additional children in her care that are not legally or biologically hers nieces. She receives payment from my FIL for it. Anyway, I immediately made a police report and DHS referral the night. I found and collected all the evidence I can, and there is substantial evidence in writing that she knew of the activities and concealed them. My daughter has been interviewed and shared detailed information about being exposed to explicit adult content, media, and topics. Yet, I don’t feel like I’m being taken seriously or that the immediate threat to the children in her home was taken seriously. I feel so helpless and distraught but will stop at nothing to ensure justice is served for the children and they are protected and supported in recovery after this trauma. She did not separate the children, get counseling for them, notify anybody and the children continued being together. She allowed them to spend the night at my house for multiple nights, knowing that we had no idea. Yet she is a master manipulating narcissist and adamantly, swears she took the proper steps to protect the children in her home from MY child because my child is at fault for all of this. She’s accused her of the most heinous acts that she ultimately share 0 facts or evidence for. She said it’s based on “hearsay” but she believe them. Nothing makes sense, I’m questioning reality and feel so unsupported by DHS and law enforcement. I need advice from anyone who has experienced anything like this. Please share any and all information or resources. I’ve emailed the DA, with detailed information and evidence. I was also informed that another child involved and her parents reported additional exposures and abuse to officials in another county and they already notified her that they are pursuing charges. The county I live in is notorious for failing to serve justice. I’m desperate. If I have to go the court house and sit there every single day I will. I am also advocating relentlessly for the children in her home who do not have present parents. They need to be removed immediately based on the disgusting, vile and perverse content and behavior they’ve been exposed to repeatedly for over a year
